How I Fixed My Relationships — and How You Can Too

Published by Maya Hale, Chief Editor

Updated on November 14, 2024

 8 mins

For years, I felt like my relationships were falling apart. I was trying so hard to keep everything together, but inside, I was exhausted, lonely, and scared of losing the people I loved. I told myself things would get better on their own, but they didn’t — until I finally decided to make a change.
If you’re feeling stuck, I want you to know you’re not alone. This is the story of my transformation, and I hope it inspires you to take the first step toward the love and connection you deserve.
I'm about to share my personal story and the biggest lessons I learned from my Love Saving Program— a personalized, experience-based approach that finally brought clarity and made everything fall into place.

1. Breaking Free from Codependency

I used to think love meant sacrificing everything for someone else. I believed that if I gave enough, they’d stay. But all I got in return was burnout and resentment.

The Wake-Up Call: One night, after another fight where I said “yes” to something I didn’t want, I broke down. I cried and asked myself, "Why am I so scared to just be me?" That question changed everything.

Signs I Couldn’t Ignore:

• Feeling responsible for everyone’s emotions but my own.
• Saying “yes” out of fear, not because I wanted to.
• Losing myself and my identity in the relationship.

Why the Love Saving Program Resonated With Me:

• I Found A Safe Space And A Friend I Can Actually Talk To: In addition to the Program - there are your personal Mentors who are there to listen, without any judgement, ask right questions and support in hard times.
• I Learned to Say ‘No’ Without Guilt: My Mentor supported me as I took this first terrifying step. I finally understood, "I’m allowed to take care of myself."
• I Rediscovered My Passion: I picked up painting — something I hadn’t done in years — and it reminded me of who I was outside the relationship.
• My Mentor Was My Anchor: She guided me through each step, from my first "no" to the moment I realized, "Being myself didn’t destroy my relationships — it elevated them."

2. Learning to Truly Communicate

For so long, I thought my partner should just know what I needed. But that wasn’t fair. How could they understand me if I never really let them in?

What Changed for Me:

• Listening Without Judgment: I learned to stop interrupting and simply say, "I hear you." It created a safe space for real conversations. It’s easy to say how to do it, but hard to actually do it. AddMile taught me and transformed my mindset.
• Speaking Honestly: Instead of blaming, I used "I feel…" statements. Saying "I feel hurt when…" was less threatening than "You never…"
• Walking Away from Arguments: It became easy for me to take a break during arguments and say, "Let’s talk when we’re both calm." It saved us from so many bad fights.
• Checking In: I repeated back what I heard—"So what you’re saying is…"—to prevent misunderstandings.

When We Needed Help: Working with a Relationship Mentor gave us tools we didn’t have before. Her words stuck with me: "Communication is the bridge to connection. Don’t let it collapse."

3. Rebuilding Trust—One Day at a Time

Trust Was Broken, But Not Beyond Repair. One thing led to another, and I remember the day my partner said, "I don’t know if I can trust you anymore." It shattered me. But instead of walking away, I chose to fight for us.
There’s no one “magic pill” for everyone to help fix what’s broken. You need to find “your pill” and for me it’s about understanding your personal triggers, being transparent—especially with yourself—and showing consistency over promises.

What Helped Me Most:

• Taking the quiz that pinpointed my blind spots.
• Allowing my Mentor to fill in the gaps and help me better understand both theory and practice.
• Getting guidance on whether I needed personalized coaching sessions to go deeper.

My Turning Point—and Yours

My breakthrough came when I discovered AddMile—a powerful relationship coaching app that doesn’t just give advice but provides personalized, step-by-step tools to rebuild your love life. With AddMile, I stopped feeling lost and started seeing real changes in how I communicated, connected, and rebuilt trust.

I turned my love life around using AddMile’s Love Saving Program—an experience-based approach that combines proven techniques with personal guidance from real mentors. It gave me the clarity, confidence, and connection I’d always dreamed of.

I believe that change is possible for anyone willing to take the first step—and I know that step can feel scary. But sometimes you need to go the extra mile and fight for something you love.